Some days I’m a functioning adult with a colour-coded calendar and clean floors. Other days, I’m Googling “can you live off toast and resentment?”, and, honestly, both are fine. Balance is a myth. An unachievable goal peddled by 20-something wannabe wellness gurus still living at home with Mum and Dad – and those glossy lifestyle magazines that profit from keeping us feeling inadequate.
… Am not bitter.
No one actually has it all together – they just have better filters, lighting, or denial.
Seriously, I’ll say it louder for the people up the back scrolling Instagram and comparing their day-to-day lives with someone’s just-for-show video.
No one. Actually. Has it all together.
(Extra punctuation and everything.)
Sure, some people are just better at pretending they do, or they’ve learned how to curate the chaos into something that looks impressive from a distance. But beneath the highlight reel? Everyone’s juggling dropped balls, unfinished lists, and at least one pile of unfolded washing that’s become part of the home décor.
The illusion of “together”
Somewhere along the line, “balance” got rebranded as “having everything perfectly managed all the time.”
We were sold this picture of calm, capable womanhood – a serene multi-tasker with glowing skin, a thriving career, and a fridge full of organic snacks.
Pffft. I’m sure most of us are held together by dry shampoo, sarcasm, and the occasional deep sigh in the car before we go inside.
Balance isn’t a static thing you achieve. At best, it’s a rhythm you tune into. Some seasons demand more of your time, others more of your heart. The trick is to shift gracefully, not to stand perfectly still.
Harmony over balance
Think of your life less like a set of spinning plates, and more like a song. Some instruments come forward, others quiet down, and together they make something beautiful – even if it’s not symmetrical.
That’s harmony. And harmony feels a whole lot better than pretending to be perfect.
When we stop trying to “have it all together,” we give ourselves permission to be real: tired, messy, evolving. That’s when we find ease again – not in control, but in acceptance.
So, here’s your gentle nudge
This week, pick one area where you can stop performing and start being. Maybe that’s letting the dishes wait. Maybe it’s saying no without a PowerPoint presentation of reasons. Maybe it’s admitting you’re doing your best — and that’s enough.
Because the goal isn’t to get it all right. The goal is to feel right within yourself.
Your turn
What’s one “should” you can release this week – something that’s stealing your energy for the sake of appearances?
Drop it. See how it feels.
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Em x
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