When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
There’s a question that gets pulled out at dinner parties, workshops, and well-meaning conversations. You know the one. If money were no object, if you… Read More »When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
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The self you built for someone else
The self you spend decades performing for other people doesn’t disappear overnight, but midlife has a way of making the gap between who you are… Read More »The self you built for someone else
Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Nobody tells you that one of the sneakiest midlife traps is competence. You’ve spent decades getting good at things — good at your job, good… Read More »Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
The subtle habit of shrinking yourself for others
At forty-six, I thought I’d be done with this. Done smoothing things over. Done editing myself for the comfort of people I barely care about.… Read More »The subtle habit of shrinking yourself for others
A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
Sometimes change doesn’t arrive with clarity, it arrives with restlessness. This is a letter to my future self, written from the in‑between: the space where… Read More »A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
A love letter to 2025
Dear 2025, You weren’t loud. You didn’t arrive with fireworks or grand announcements. You turned up quietly, and for a long time, I wasn’t sure… Read More »A love letter to 2025
Surviving December: finding grace in the chaos
December has apparently arrived. I didn’t even hear the door open and suddenly she’s just here, barging in with tinsel in her hair and a… Read More »Surviving December: finding grace in the chaos
The invisible wins we should celebrate
Big wins get the spotlight. Promotions, new houses, dream holidays, the triumphant “before and after” photo. Cue applause, confetti, and 53 congratulatory comments. But what… Read More »The invisible wins we should celebrate
The myth of the midlife glow-up
You don’t need a glow-up, you’ve always been beautiful. Photo by Vincent van Zalinge on Unsplash Somewhere along the line, the internet decided that women… Read More »The myth of the midlife glow-up
The most important relationship you’ll ever have
We all have that one person in our lives. The one we can’t live without. The one who can be both our best friend and… Read More »The most important relationship you’ll ever have
Monday motivation: You don’t have to fix everything this week
Somewhere along the way, Mondays turned into a weird pressure cooker of expectations. The Instagram-worthy Monday motivation trope means we’re all supposed to wake up,… Read More »Monday motivation: You don’t have to fix everything this week
Why I’m quitting yoga (sort of)
I didn’t think I’d be writing a post with “quitting yoga” in the title quite so soon … but here we are. I’m not quitting… Read More »Why I’m quitting yoga (sort of)
The stories I need to stop telling myself
(Because I’m tired of my own inner BS) I suspect I’m not alone here, but there’s a tiny, persistent narrator in my head. She’s quite… Read More »The stories I need to stop telling myself
This is the only draft you get
Living life in rough draft, unapologetically unfinished You don’t get a second run at this. There’s no second draft. No clean edit coming later. There’s… Read More »This is the only draft you get
6 beliefs to unlearn right now
(Because not every belief deserves a long-term lease) Somewhere between learning to love kale and Googling “Is it perimenopause or am I just done?” –… Read More »6 beliefs to unlearn right now
I don’t know what I feel, but it’s fucking loud
Some days, there’s no name for it. But it’s there. Pressing on my chest. Throbbing behind my eyes. Filling my throat. It’s not sadness, exactly.… Read More »I don’t know what I feel, but it’s fucking loud
How to do a digital detox (without deleting your entire personality)
You ever catch yourself doomscrolling so hard your thumb cramps and your soul detaches a little? Same. Look, I’m not here to make you feel… Read More »How to do a digital detox (without deleting your entire personality)
What I thought I needed (and what actually helped)
You know what’s exhausting? Trying to fix your life with the very tools that are burning you out in the first place. For a long… Read More »What I thought I needed (and what actually helped)
How to spot the quiet growth that’s healing you
Some days don’t feel like personal growth days. They feel like survival days.Like “just get through this meeting without crying” days.Like “I can’t deal with… Read More »How to spot the quiet growth that’s healing you
It’ll be great: what I’d tell my younger self about ageing
Twenty-something me thought 40 was ancient. Ageing? A crisis. Wrinkles and grey hair? A tragedy. Menopause? A horror movie. But somewhere between then and now,… Read More »It’ll be great: what I’d tell my younger self about ageing
You’re too old for this sh*t (and other midlife myths)
They said midlife was the beginning of the end. They said it was time to stay quiet, stay small, stay grateful. They said we should… Read More »You’re too old for this sh*t (and other midlife myths)