When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
There’s a question that gets pulled out at dinner parties, workshops, and well-meaning conversations. You know the one. If money were no object, if you… Read More »When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
midlife journey
Inherited beliefs midlife women don’t realise they carry
“I don’t want to seem too pushy.” I heard myself say it before I’d even thought it. I was mid-conversation about something I was requesting… Read More »Inherited beliefs midlife women don’t realise they carry
The types of midlife friendships and why you need them all
Your childhood best friend. Your mum friends. Your work crew. The new ones — the ones you’ve somehow managed to collect in the last few… Read More »The types of midlife friendships and why you need them all
Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Nobody tells you that one of the sneakiest midlife traps is competence. You’ve spent decades getting good at things — good at your job, good… Read More »Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
Nobody warns you that one of the stranger losses of midlife is the slow fade of social ease. You used to just … make friends.… Read More »Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
The politics of the midlife group chat
If your midlife group chat gives you more anxiety than connection, you’re not imagining it — and you’re definitely not alone. You open the group… Read More »The politics of the midlife group chat
Why friendships change in midlife (and why that’s normal)
Often friendships change in midlife because your identity, energy, values, and emotional capacity all shift, and your relationships naturally reorganise around the person you’re becoming.… Read More »Why friendships change in midlife (and why that’s normal)
When you’re changing and outgrowing friendships
Sometimes, friendships don’t fall apart. They don’t end in dramatic arguments or drift off quietly or explode into silence. They just start to feel …… Read More »When you’re changing and outgrowing friendships
The spaces in my day where I disappear
Lately I’ve been noticing how often drift off out of my life, even during moments when I really want to be present. Not zoning out… Read More »The spaces in my day where I disappear
A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
Sometimes change doesn’t arrive with clarity, it arrives with restlessness. This is a letter to my future self, written from the in‑between: the space where… Read More »A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
A love letter to 2025
Dear 2025, You weren’t loud. You didn’t arrive with fireworks or grand announcements. You turned up quietly, and for a long time, I wasn’t sure… Read More »A love letter to 2025
Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
I used to think comfort was something you reached for when things were really wrong. Big emotions. Big life events. Crisis-level situations. Turns out, I… Read More »Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
A poodle, a coffee and a tiny shift in the universe
Some weeks feel like someone turned the volume up on life and lost the remote. Work, travel, obligations, sensory overload … the whole shebang. So… Read More »A poodle, a coffee and a tiny shift in the universe
The mid-November feeling: that strange energetic shift
Hey You, (Yes, You … the one squinting at the calendar wondering why you feel like you’re losing a race you never even entered …)… Read More »The mid-November feeling: that strange energetic shift
Are we showing up for friends, or just texting?
Hey you, I was thinking about you today … or maybe I was just thinking about us. The way we used to be. Remember when… Read More »Are we showing up for friends, or just texting?
What ever happened to the ‘restful weekend’?
Is it just me or are weekends just unpaid overtime with laundry? I don’t know exactly when it happened, but at some point the weekend… Read More »What ever happened to the ‘restful weekend’?
Balance is a myth and “having it all together” is a scam
Some days I’m a functioning adult with a colour-coded calendar and clean floors. Other days, I’m Googling “can you live off toast and resentment?”, and,… Read More »Balance is a myth and “having it all together” is a scam
The invisible wins we should celebrate
Big wins get the spotlight. Promotions, new houses, dream holidays, the triumphant “before and after” photo. Cue applause, confetti, and 53 congratulatory comments. But what… Read More »The invisible wins we should celebrate
The myth of the midlife glow-up
You don’t need a glow-up, you’ve always been beautiful. Photo by Vincent van Zalinge on Unsplash Somewhere along the line, the internet decided that women… Read More »The myth of the midlife glow-up
The fantasy is delicious, but the reality would leave me malnourished
I’m a world-class daydreamer. Not in a “visualise your goals” kind of way, but in a recurring fantasy of “ditching real life and escaping to… Read More »The fantasy is delicious, but the reality would leave me malnourished
Main character energy in midlife: stop living like an NPC
If your life was a movie, who would you be? The star of the show – fully present, driving the action – or the background… Read More »Main character energy in midlife: stop living like an NPC