The quiet strengths we forget to count
The other day I was updating my LinkedIn profile and found myself staring at that familiar list of skills. The usual suspects. And it got… Read More »The quiet strengths we forget to count
midlife journey
Why I say I’m fine (when I’m really not)
“Hey Em, how are you doing today?” they asked. Without hesitation, I replied: “I’m fine thanks, how are you?” I can’t be sure — because… Read More »Why I say I’m fine (when I’m really not)
Who am I now? The midlife identity shift catching many of us off guard
At some point (and it rarely announces itself) you catch yourself mid-sentence, mid-task, mid-perfectly ordinary Tuesday, and something doesn’t quite add up. Like a note… Read More »Who am I now? The midlife identity shift catching many of us off guard
Age Like a Girl: an honest review from a midlife woman
I thought I was falling apart. Turns out I was being rebuilt. Midlife can be disorientating. Sometimes you look in the mirror (metaphorically and literally)… Read More »Age Like a Girl: an honest review from a midlife woman
The difference between being liked and being known
You can be surrounded by people who genuinely like you, and still feel completely invisible. Not in a dramatic, no-one-loves-me way. More like … you’re… Read More »The difference between being liked and being known
When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
There’s a question that gets pulled out at dinner parties, workshops, and well-meaning conversations. You know the one. If money were no object, if you… Read More »When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
Inherited beliefs midlife women don’t realise they carry
“I don’t want to seem too pushy.” I heard myself say it before I’d even thought it. I was mid-conversation about something I was requesting… Read More »Inherited beliefs midlife women don’t realise they carry
The types of midlife friendships and why you need them all
Your childhood best friend. Your mum friends. Your work crew. The new ones — the ones you’ve somehow managed to collect in the last few… Read More »The types of midlife friendships and why you need them all
Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Nobody tells you that one of the sneakiest midlife traps is competence. You’ve spent decades getting good at things — good at your job, good… Read More »Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
Nobody warns you that one of the stranger losses of midlife is the slow fade of social ease. You used to just … make friends.… Read More »Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
The politics of the midlife group chat
If your midlife group chat gives you more anxiety than connection, you’re not imagining it — and you’re definitely not alone. You open the group… Read More »The politics of the midlife group chat
Why friendships change in midlife (and why that’s normal)
Often friendships change in midlife because your identity, energy, values, and emotional capacity all shift, and your relationships naturally reorganise around the person you’re becoming.… Read More »Why friendships change in midlife (and why that’s normal)
When you’re changing and outgrowing friendships
Sometimes, friendships don’t fall apart. They don’t end in dramatic arguments or drift off quietly or explode into silence. They just start to feel …… Read More »When you’re changing and outgrowing friendships
The spaces in my day where I disappear
Lately I’ve been noticing how often drift off out of my life, even during moments when I really want to be present. Not zoning out… Read More »The spaces in my day where I disappear
A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
Sometimes change doesn’t arrive with clarity, it arrives with restlessness. This is a letter to my future self, written from the in‑between: the space where… Read More »A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
A love letter to 2025
Dear 2025, You weren’t loud. You didn’t arrive with fireworks or grand announcements. You turned up quietly, and for a long time, I wasn’t sure… Read More »A love letter to 2025
Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
I used to think comfort was something you reached for when things were really wrong. Big emotions. Big life events. Crisis-level situations. Turns out, I… Read More »Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
A poodle, a coffee and a tiny shift in the universe
Some weeks feel like someone turned the volume up on life and lost the remote. Work, travel, obligations, sensory overload … the whole shebang. So… Read More »A poodle, a coffee and a tiny shift in the universe
The mid-November feeling: that strange energetic shift
Hey You, (Yes, You … the one squinting at the calendar wondering why you feel like you’re losing a race you never even entered …)… Read More »The mid-November feeling: that strange energetic shift
Are we showing up for friends, or just texting?
Hey you, I was thinking about you today … or maybe I was just thinking about us. The way we used to be. Remember when… Read More »Are we showing up for friends, or just texting?
What ever happened to the ‘restful weekend’?
Is it just me or are weekends just unpaid overtime with laundry? I don’t know exactly when it happened, but at some point the weekend… Read More »What ever happened to the ‘restful weekend’?