The light is back, and apparently so am I
Winter doesn’t break me, but it does make my life smaller. I move less, want less, reach for less. Then the days lengthen, the air… Read More »The light is back, and apparently so am I
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What I’ve kept through every version of me
I found an old bullet journal the other day. Nothing particularly exciting. Just one of those notebooks I’d apparently bought with the very serious intention… Read More »What I’ve kept through every version of me
Living in alignment starts with noticing your midlife priorities
I used to think alignment was something you found … like it was hiding out there somewhere, waiting for me to stumble across it if… Read More »Living in alignment starts with noticing your midlife priorities
I’ve been waiting to feel different before I started
I’ve spent an embarrassing amount of my life waiting. Waiting until Monday. Waiting until next month. Waiting until work settled down. Waiting until I had… Read More »I’ve been waiting to feel different before I started
Who am I now? The midlife identity shift catching many of us off guard
At some point (and it rarely announces itself) you catch yourself mid-sentence, mid-task, mid-perfectly ordinary Tuesday, and something doesn’t quite add up. Like a note… Read More »Who am I now? The midlife identity shift catching many of us off guard
The self you built for someone else
The self you spend decades performing for other people doesn’t disappear overnight, but midlife has a way of making the gap between who you are… Read More »The self you built for someone else
Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Nobody tells you that one of the sneakiest midlife traps is competence. You’ve spent decades getting good at things — good at your job, good… Read More »Midlife courage: why it’s important to be a beginner again
Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
Nobody warns you that one of the stranger losses of midlife is the slow fade of social ease. You used to just … make friends.… Read More »Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
Why friendships change in midlife (and why that’s normal)
Often friendships change in midlife because your identity, energy, values, and emotional capacity all shift, and your relationships naturally reorganise around the person you’re becoming.… Read More »Why friendships change in midlife (and why that’s normal)
When you’re changing and outgrowing friendships
Sometimes, friendships don’t fall apart. They don’t end in dramatic arguments or drift off quietly or explode into silence. They just start to feel …… Read More »When you’re changing and outgrowing friendships
January expectations vs reality – official meeting minutes
Filed as a matter of public record. Date: 31 January 2026Time: 1pmLocation: Inside my head Chair: December MeAttendees: January Me (issued apology for late arrival)… Read More »January expectations vs reality – official meeting minutes
The subtle habit of shrinking yourself for others
At forty-six, I thought I’d be done with this. Done smoothing things over. Done editing myself for the comfort of people I barely care about.… Read More »The subtle habit of shrinking yourself for others
The spaces in my day where I disappear
Lately I’ve been noticing how often drift off out of my life, even during moments when I really want to be present. Not zoning out… Read More »The spaces in my day where I disappear
A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
Sometimes change doesn’t arrive with clarity, it arrives with restlessness. This is a letter to my future self, written from the in‑between: the space where… Read More »A letter to my future self … from the middle of change
Behold! The ten non-resolutions for 2026
And lo, as the calendar turned and the people proclaimed, “Behold! A new year! Become someone else immediately.” But I say unto thee: no. There… Read More »Behold! The ten non-resolutions for 2026
A love letter to 2025
Dear 2025, You weren’t loud. You didn’t arrive with fireworks or grand announcements. You turned up quietly, and for a long time, I wasn’t sure… Read More »A love letter to 2025
Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
I used to think comfort was something you reached for when things were really wrong. Big emotions. Big life events. Crisis-level situations. Turns out, I… Read More »Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
A poodle, a coffee and a tiny shift in the universe
Some weeks feel like someone turned the volume up on life and lost the remote. Work, travel, obligations, sensory overload … the whole shebang. So… Read More »A poodle, a coffee and a tiny shift in the universe
The mid-November feeling: that strange energetic shift
Hey You, (Yes, You … the one squinting at the calendar wondering why you feel like you’re losing a race you never even entered …)… Read More »The mid-November feeling: that strange energetic shift
Are we showing up for friends, or just texting?
Hey you, I was thinking about you today … or maybe I was just thinking about us. The way we used to be. Remember when… Read More »Are we showing up for friends, or just texting?
What ever happened to the ‘restful weekend’?
Is it just me or are weekends just unpaid overtime with laundry? I don’t know exactly when it happened, but at some point the weekend… Read More »What ever happened to the ‘restful weekend’?