I thought I was falling apart. Turns out I was being rebuilt. Midlife can be disorientating. Sometimes you look in the mirror (metaphorically and literally)… Read More »Age Like a Girl: an honest review from a midlife woman
You can be surrounded by people who genuinely like you, and still feel completely invisible. Not in a dramatic, no-one-loves-me way. More like … you’re… Read More »The difference between being liked and being known
There’s a question that gets pulled out at dinner parties, workshops, and well-meaning conversations. You know the one. If money were no object, if you… Read More »When did you stop knowing what you wanted?
Your childhood best friend. Your mum friends. Your work crew. The new ones — the ones you’ve somehow managed to collect in the last few… Read More »The types of midlife friendships and why you need them all
Nobody warns you that one of the stranger losses of midlife is the slow fade of social ease. You used to just … make friends.… Read More »Making new friends in midlife: why it’s worth it
I used to think comfort was something you reached for when things were really wrong. Big emotions. Big life events. Crisis-level situations. Turns out, I… Read More »Small comforts I didn’t expect to need at this age
Some noise feels like it’s personally out to get you. For example: the screaming child in the supermarket issuing shrieks that ricochet off the tinned… Read More »When noise isn’t just noise
You know how “they” (who even are they?) say “your body keeps the score”? Well, I think it’s true. And my body doesn’t muck around.… Read More »Forced to slow down: the nose knows
Some days I’m a functioning adult with a colour-coded calendar and clean floors. Other days, I’m Googling “can you live off toast and resentment?”, and,… Read More »Balance is a myth and “having it all together” is a scam
We all have that one person in our lives. The one we can’t live without. The one who can be both our best friend and… Read More »The most important relationship you’ll ever have
Like a polite dinner party guest, midlife always brings a little something for the host. It doesn’t always feel like a gift or a blessing,… Read More »Lessons from midlife: what I know for sure right now
I didn’t think I’d be writing a post with “quitting yoga” in the title quite so soon … but here we are. I’m not quitting… Read More »Why I’m quitting yoga (sort of)
Lately I’ve been feeling sub-optimal. I’ve not been sleeping well, so I’ve been tired. I’ve been tired, so I’ve been picky and grumpy. I’ve been… Read More »The mental load I didn’t know I was carrying
(Because I’m tired of my own inner BS) I suspect I’m not alone here, but there’s a tiny, persistent narrator in my head. She’s quite… Read More »The stories I need to stop telling myself
Living life in rough draft, unapologetically unfinished You don’t get a second run at this. There’s no second draft. No clean edit coming later. There’s… Read More »This is the only draft you get
(Because not every belief deserves a long-term lease) Somewhere between learning to love kale and Googling “Is it perimenopause or am I just done?” –… Read More »6 beliefs to unlearn right now
Some days, there’s no name for it. But it’s there. Pressing on my chest. Throbbing behind my eyes. Filling my throat. It’s not sadness, exactly.… Read More »I don’t know what I feel, but it’s fucking loud
Want to keep breathing? I got you … read on (but, for the love of all that is holy, stop breathing so loud) Living with… Read More »The family’s survival guide to living with a midlife woman
You know what’s exhausting? Trying to fix your life with the very tools that are burning you out in the first place. For a long… Read More »What I thought I needed (and what actually helped)
There comes a point – often somewhere between loading the dishwasher again and wondering if everyone else is just better at life – when it… Read More »Letting go of perfection: why your inner weirdo deserves the spotlight
There are, believe it or not, times when people don’t like you – and yes, I’ve discovered it happens to me too. “What?” I hear… Read More »When people don’t like you (and you kinda hate that)